Emigration is hard. Flipping hard. It’s not something that anyone can really say they enjoy 100%.
With all the excitement of a new country can also come the heartbreaking pain of leaving another behind.
All the new, shiny things are amazing, until you realise what you’ve also lost.
New friends are lovely, but nothing compares to the decades of friendship that you’ve built up since childhood.
The next time you’re feeling low, here are 10 things to remember when going through tough times.
1. Nothing Is Permanent
This is a biggie. Nothing is ever permanent. It’s perfectly normal to feel sad and teary when you emigrate.
Over time, you will have fewer days like this, trust me. You’ll get through them.
2. All Experiences Will Teach You Something
Every experience in our lives will teach us something – whether it’s positive or negative.
On the days where you feel like nothing is going right, think about how you might look back on this day in years to come and what the likely lesson will have been.
3. Everything Happens For A Reason
I’m a big believer in everything happens for a reason. Although sometimes it won’t feel like a good thing at the time, it will be a turning point for your life in one way or another.
I got fired and at the time it felt like the worst thing ever. But within a few months, I had started my own business, pushed my blog forward and started working with Rand Rescue – none of these things would have been possible if I had stayed employed.
I now work fewer hours, earn double and get to go horse riding at least once a week – how awesome is that?
4. Someone Loves You
Never forget that there is ALWAYS someone who loves you and has your back.
Find those people and hold onto them tight. Talk to them as often as you need to.
They will never judge you and will always be there for you.
5. Be Kind To Yourself
We are often our own harshest critics. Be kind to yourself.
Don’t hold yourself up to some ridiculously high standard – it’s unlikely anyone else will.
6. Don’t Let Other People’s Negativity Affect You
It’s easy to feel down when those around you are negative and miserable. You’re going to have tough days when you emigrate; the trick is to try and have them on different days to your other half.
When one of you is feeling kak, the other one needs to lift you up.
Try not to let the negativity of others bring you down.
7. You’ve Been Through Tough Times Before
If you’ve made it thus far unscathed, I don’t know how you’ve done it!
We’ve all had trials in life, and many of us have had to endure some hectic stuff.
Find your inner strength that has gotten you through tough times before and harness it with all your might to get you through what you’re experiencing now.
8. There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For
No matter what’s happening in your life, there is always something to be grateful for.
Being alive. Being in good health. Having happy and healthy children. Feeling the sunshine on your face. Going for a walk on the beach. Having a snuggle with your dog. Being able to put food on the table.
Start a gratitude journal. Write down at least one thing every morning you’re grateful for. In a few months’ time look back and see just how many amazing things you have going on in your life.
9. What You Project, You Attract
The law of attraction is real. The vibes and intentions you set out in the universe will always come back to you.
The more you focus on what you don’t have, the universe will keep reminding you that you don’t have these things, whether they are simple possessions, key relationships, a good job, or anything else you can think of.
Focus your energy on what you want in your life, and truly believe it. You might just be surprised what comes your way when you focus on the positives.
10. Remember To Have Some Fun
Emigration is tough, sure. But you didn’t move to the end of the world just to be miserable. Go out and have some fun.
It doesn’t even have to cost you anything.
Go for a stroll on the beach or through a local nature reserve. Take your dog for a walk. Go for a drive and explore a nearby town. Find out what’s happening on the weekend and make a plan to check it out.
Perth is full of free events most weekends, or you can take a look at my ultimate Perth bucket list here for some more inspiration.
We all go through tough times at some point or another, but it’s how we get through them that really matters in life.